WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain power and control over another individual through abuse.
FORMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions
or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any
behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt,
humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
YOU ARE A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WHEN YOUR PARTNER, DATE, RELATIVE OR FRIEND HAS:
- Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
- Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
- Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
- Scared you by driving recklessly.
- Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
- Forced you to leave your home.
- Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
- Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
- Hurt your children.
- Used physical force in sexual situations.
WHY DOES IT HAPPEN
There could be any number of reasons, including :
- family dysfunction
- inadequate communication skills
- stress
- chemical dependency
- lack of spirituality,
- economic hardship
WHO DOES IT HAPPEN TO
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual
orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are
married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects
people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
PROFILE OF AN ABUSER
Abusers objectify women, unable to see them as people. They do not respect women as a
group and instead, they view them as property or sexual objects.
- Abusers typically have low self-esteem and feel powerless and inadequate, despite their successes in life (e.g., academic, professional, economic, athletic).
- Abusers do not accept responsibility for their actions. (e.g.. stress, a bad day, his partner's behavior, chemical dependency, etc.)
- Abusers may be charming, outgoing, and friendly between violent episodes.
Abusers may also be:
- extremely jealous
- possessive
- ill-tempered
- Unpredictable
- cruel to family pets
- verbally abusive.
(The information is adapted from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.)
(http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/dv/index.php)